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Question: He treats friends and strangers like gold. He acts like I am causing him problems when I am talking on the phone etc. sometimes if someone else is there to make himself look like a angel to another woman or a friend. I have been kind supportive, worked to make
money and he doesn't like me doing that even if we were being evicted. I
have one child left at home at present. He would never help or come home
on time so who was going to take care of my children at one time when they
were little. He moved us to FL and abandoned us. Telling us he was moving
down there. We live in ----. He can never do something just for the kids or I. Doing something for someone else has to be involved. I am at my wits end. I have no way to support myself but will in the future because my last child will be old enough. Every time he does something that is illegal he gets away with it. He makes his family wait while others abuse his talents and help?? I believe that your family comes first. Nothing can make me understand why he acts like this. His sisters have been married many times. He has sexual problems and he wants sex at any hour. I have mistaken this sex for love for to long. It is not. I have never had a real relationship or love with sex even though I am older. I have to fight {expression} to get him to act in some small way normal towards us?? He sees others take care of their families and has the nerve once every 2 years or so to take me to a picnic with others where they act like loving families. He even acts like them {phony} while we are there. It makes me sick. I have been through so much he gets away with murder. I could never leave him alone with our children because he couldn't watch them more then 2 minutes without leaving them all alone and acting like they didn't exist. He is selfish demanding rude cruel and has now started to cut my youngest child down like he does me. Our oldest was a very good looking boy and my husband only made comments about him looking too perfect and drove him out of our house at 17. He married, a very young father of two and knows none of this is normal. I love myself but have many health issues and can't help thinking they are because of my husband. He stopped hitting me, but the mental abuse
is just as bad. He plays games and has tried to leave but he gets abusive
or mentally crazy. I did report him for something he did, one time for my
own safety and he will never forget it. He acts like he always wants
to get me back. I have been abused thousands of times but just thought he
has a problem. I have been silent to long. I am not treated like a
human or even a animal. I know i am worth more but am physically ill
a lot and have one more child and then I will not have to have contact
with him. I have no insurance and when I do he can't know about be talking
to others about this. He will tell everyone I am nuts. He puts
on a good show. I do know now he should have never married me or had
children. He thinks younger women etc. will help him but I should
put him out and let him end up in jail for abusing them too. Name Witheld Answer: I don't know to what extent your health problems limit you from working, and that is a serious concern.. however, have you looked into public health resources for help? Do you have an Islamic Center based support system in your community? Stress causes limitations that when one moves out of the situation are alleviated. Ask yourself: what you are willing to
change about yourself if you want to change your situation. Are you
willing to take the risk of supporting yourself and your son on your own?
Do you value a peaceful life enough to take the risk of leaving an abusive
situation? Uzma Mazhar MS; MA |