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| Different Value System
Question: Yes and no ;-) Depends on what you differ on, if it is how to discipline children, that kind of difference is workable. If the values you differ on are offensive to your moral or ethical make-up, then those would be more difficult to work on. You don't have to see or do things exactly the way your partner does in order to have a meaningful relationship. The first step would be to define these differences, evaluate how important they are to each one, so that each can work to respect and accommodate the other person's values where possible. Sometimes we confuse values with preferences, one may prefer to do things one way and the other another way. Such differences are not about values. eg: cleanliness is a value, how or when to clean are preferences or habits. So if you both hold cleanliness as a value but disagree about the degree of cleanliness that is acceptable to each partner, that is a preference or habit problem. When these become huge issues of conflict in the relationship they escalate into control issues. Moral values are much more difficult to compromise on. Regards |